One Seems So Insignificant

An old song says “one is the loneliest number.” Truly, in almost all things in life, one isn’t much. One is the start towards two or more.

It’s easy to almost ignore one. One is right next to zero.

Even when it comes to time, whether it’s: one minute, one hour, one day, one week, they’re all asking for more. Right? That’s certainly how I see it and think. Until…

Admit it, it’s easy to overlook a seemingly insignificant increment of time.

However, 10,000 days has changed that for me.

Each morning I think about the day ahead. My one day. The only one I have. I think through my intent and goals. I also think about the people in my life and what I need to be aware of with them. In other words, I try to think about what I have to get done and those who matter most in my life.

Then, each evening, when it’s time to move a penny (the symbol of 1 of my 10,000 days), I reflect on how I did that day. It has quickly become second nature to reflect and ask if today mattered. Did I live it like I should have? Did I make a difference? Did I matter? Did I invest quality time with someone in my life? Did I put the phone away when I was talking? Did I major in the majors? Etc.

And when I move that ONE penny, it feels very significant. Whether I had an on-purpose day or whether I squandered it. One feels very significant.

I encourage you to take advantage of each ONE DAY you get.

They add up over time and you find that each one of them mattered greatly.

Don’t waste ONE DAY on low living.

What’s a Day Worth?

What’s a day worth?

To those of us who seemingly have an unlimited number of days, we can easily ignore the question. However, to the person who has been given a, “you have x number of days to live”, each and every day can’t have a price tag placed on it. Right?

10,000 days is my effort to not take any day for granted and to live each and every day with a certain purpose.

Since I’ve not been here a few days, let’s catch up.

First, the only reason I’ve not written since January 1st is that it literally took us numerous trips to a store and 3 separate purchases to find containers that would hold 10,000 pennies. I didn’t want to write until I had that solved.

Second, my goal is to (1) set my intention each and every day in the morning. I want to honestly take a moment and set the days agenda and intent. I plan on identifying a primary purpose daily.

Third, each evening (or night) I will move a penny from the “10,000 jar” to the empty jar. Since I started this on January 1st, the empty jar has 6 pennies in it now. Ideally, if I get all 10,000 of my allotted days, the 10,000 pennies jar will empty and the empty jar will end up with 10,000 pennies.

I plan on reflecting each evening with what I did, or didn’t, do with my day. I hope to be honest in my reflections.

I can already tell you that my number one flaw is wasted time.

When you seriously, and honestly, count each day, hours matter. So do minutes. I’ve identified how much time I simply waste. Some of the wasted time is spent on bullcrap (social media for example). Some of my time is wasted on being “busy” doing absolutely nothing meaningful. Some of my time has been wasted being lazy.

I seriously think I make better use of my time today (January 6th) then I did only a few days ago. I am that serious about getting this right.

I want to live each day in ways that when I reflect I can identify a couple, or few, “this really mattered” activities. Whether it was for me or others I feel the intentionality building already.

I am stoked and ready to live the next 9,995 days full of life.

Thanks for following.

Same OLD Same OLD

It’s January 1st of a brand new year. 365 days untainted from the past. Right?

Well sort of.

The challenge is we bring same old us into the beautiful untarnished new year. Same thinking. Same struggles. Same habits. Same everything.

But, one thing that is different is that we BELIEVE in the newness. We HOPE in the new beginning. And rightly so. We should.

Here’s what we have to do to really have new.

STOP something that is robbing you from the new. Don’t pick 20 things and expect to overhaul your entire life today. It’s not going to happen and you’ll get frustrated and bail the entire NEW YOU project before it gets traction.

Also, PICK a NEW START Goal too. Just One.

Just pick a thing to STOP and a thing to START.

Stop now and pick those 2 things. 1 STOP. 1 START.

THEN remember this.

You don’t manage goals. You manage DECISIONS. Literally nanoseconds are what you manage. It’s in those nanoseconds where the new you takes on new life and the old you begins to fade away.

When you feel the OLD you wanting to do the OLD thing…you manage that moment. That nanosecond and choose the NEW. And you do so over and over until a new HABIT is formed.

You manage emotions and feelings. You manage the inner voice. The real battle is won within before it shows up in life.

Then YOU do it again and again and again. Over and over.

When you fall short you recommit.

When you fall short evaluate and identify what happened? What needs to change in order for you to win more? Adjust and go again.

That’s how a NEW you will come to life this year and how an OLD you will die.

If you go by feelings alone, you won’t win this one.

If you don’t manage the nanoseconds within, you won’t win this one.

However, if you take it day by day and manage the moments…

You’ll have an incredible year!

2019 is going to be EPIC!

Last Day…

The last day of a year always causes me to pause and reflect.

However, as time goes on, my reflection and lessons from it have become more intentional.

Today is no exception.

I went through my entire 2018 calendar. Every meeting, whether personal or professional was looked at. I keep a very meticulous calendar and every appointment on it was looked at.

The goal was to identify where I felt my time had been invested or had a good return and to also identify where I felt my time was wasted. I identified people who were fun to hang out with… people who made it easy to be there friend… people who were going somewhere… people who I shared common interests with… and a few more insights. From those insights, I made notes of how to make better use of my time in 2019; where to invest it more and where to not waste it.

I also went through all of my 2019 goals (again). This time was the point of no return though.

I went through each one to make sure they were relevant and that each of them had obvious action plans with them. I also made sure that if each of them were my 2019 goals, that I was 100% committed to make them happen. I want to make sure that I am fully vested in each of them so that come tomorrow, I can go all in and not look back.

My goal writing process is very comprehensive. Therefore, my goals are equally comprehensive.

It’s important for me to know that IF I get another year to live, that I will not squander it to low level living.

So, I am ready for 2019.

It looks to be one of the greatest years I’ve ever had.

What about you?

How do you go into a new year?

What is 10,000 Days about?

10,000 days was born from a couple sources.

One came from something I read about the average lifespan in the US being 30,000 days. 30,000 days is just over 82 years.

I’m 55 (born in 1963) and when I read that I immediately did the math. In theory, I have almost exactly 10,000 days to live.

Out of those two thoughts, 10,000 days was born.

For Christmas all I asked for was 10,000 pennies. They are meant to be an icon of sorts to represent how I am investing each of my 10,000 days. I am keeping them in a box and I’ll move them from that box to another. One penny a day.

Each morning, I’ll “move a penny” and give serious intent to what I’ll do with that day. Whether it’s as a man, husband, father, granddad (AKA Dapa G), professional or other area of life…I hope to be on point on a very regular basis.

Each evening, I’ll reflect on how well I did.

What did I do well and what did I waste time on.

The goal is to keep raising my “living intentionally” score over time.

10,000 days will be the place that I write about both my ups and downs…my successes and losses…etc.

The goal is to not only inspire myself with the blog and pennies, but to also inspire you as well.

Stay tuned and join in. Also, I’d love for you to share this with others so they too can become more intentional with their life. Day by day. Penny by penny.